Nerves before something big are your body getting ready. They will not vanish anyway, so the goal is a couple of quick moves that steady you in the last few minutes.
Breathe out slowly
The fastest way to settle your body is a long, slow exhale. Breathe in for a count of four, then out for a count of six or seven, a few times over. The long out-breath is the part that tells your nervous system the threat has passed. Even one round lowers the physical spike of stress, and it works in the sixty seconds before you go on.
Rename it as excitement
A racing heart and a jittery stomach are almost identical whether you call it fear or excitement. So call it excitement. Telling yourself I am excited instead of I am terrified is a small trick, but the physical state is the same and the story you attach to it changes how you carry it.
Warm up out loud
Do not let the important moment be the first time your voice has moved. Say your opening line out loud a couple of times beforehand. Getting the first few sentences into your mouth ahead of time means you are not also fighting a stiff, cold voice when the pressure lands.
Get out of your head, onto the other person
Nerves feed on self-focus, on the loop of how am I doing. Point your attention outward instead, onto the person you are talking to and what would actually help them. When you are genuinely focused on being useful, there is less spare attention left over for panic.
Do a small physical reset
Stand up, roll your shoulders, shake out your hands, take a short walk around the room. A minute of movement burns off some of the jittery energy and loosens the tension that nerves put into your body and voice. Then sit down, tall, and begin.
Keep your open on a sticky note
Knowing exactly how you will start removes the scariest moment, the very first one. Write your opening line or your first two bullet points on a note by the camera. Once you are moving, momentum takes over, and the nerves fade faster than you expect. And the more you have prepared in advance, the less there is to steady in the first place.
The hard part of all this is noticing what you are doing while you are doing it, which is tough to catch on your own. We made an app for exactly that. It runs on your Mac and gives you private feedback in the moment, and it never records or uploads anything.
Download for MacQuestions people ask
How do I calm myself down right before an important call?
The fastest way to settle your body is a long, slow exhale, breathing in for a count of four and out for a count of six or seven a few times over. It works in the sixty seconds before you go on, because the long out breath tells your nervous system the threat has passed.
Can you actually get rid of nerves before a big presentation?
The goal is not to make nerves vanish, which will not happen anyway, since they are just your body getting ready. What you can do is keep a couple of quick moves, like slow breathing and a short physical reset, that steady you in the last few minutes.
Does telling yourself you are excited instead of nervous really work?
A racing heart and a jittery stomach feel almost identical whether you call it fear or excitement, so naming it excitement costs you nothing. The physical state stays the same, but the story you attach to it changes how you carry it.